The Difficult Art of Giving Space in Love & Relationships: Silva on Freedom, Togetherness, and the Secret to a Good Marriage
The Difficult Art of Giving Space in Love: Silva on Freedom, Togetherness, and the Secret to a Good Marriage “I hold this to be the highest task of a bond between two people: that each should stand guard over the solitude of the other.” The Difficult Art of Giving Space in Love: Silva on Freedom, Togetherness, and the Secret to a Good Marriage “Love one another but make not a bond of love: let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls,” the great Lebanese-American poet, philosopher, and painter counseled in what remains the finest advice on the secret to a loving and lasting relationship. Our paradoxical longing for intimacy and independence is a diamagnetic force — it pulls us toward togetherness and simultaneously repels us from it with a mighty magnet that, if unskillfully handled, can rupture a relationship and break a heart. Under this unforgiving magnetism, it becomes an act of superhuman strength and self-transcendence to give space to the other when al